‘My husband didn’t cry at either of our kids’ births,’ Sophie, one of the wedding guests, told me as we watched other guests on the dancefloor. ‘But he cried today.’ All the guys sitting at the same table as me cried during the speeches. Five bridesmaids (including me) gave speeches; a sixth gave a beautiful reading during the ceremony. There were moving speeches from male relatives, too. However, it was clear that the groom had happily embraced his bride’s wedding planning skills. I could tell the bride and one of the bridesmaids had chosen the music and playlists.
A couple of days later a recent date asked for an update. ‘Touring the island on a bike with one of the girls,’ I replied.
‘Take a photo – biker girls are a thing for me,’ he texted.
It got me thinking about how often things that aren’t traditionally expected of the opposite sex can be quite sexy. So here are my top five unexpected things that women find sexy in men…
- Showing your emotional side
We love it when a man doesn’t try to pretend he has something in his eye during some of life’s high and low points. A man who is strong enough to reveal his sensitive side – without fleeing, of course – is what women find super sexy. - Playing nurse
Okay, we don’t want our man to see us at our worst i.e. with our head down the loo, but a guy who gets a glass of water without being asked, helps us into bed and strokes our back is one we want to stick around. - Having rhythm
We like a man who has taken the time to learn to dance – either through classes or (even better) from his gran. There’s a reason they say dancing is like making love dressed and you can’t beat being slow danced around the lounge. - Your scent
A fresh-scented cologne is yummy, but a man’s natural scent is even yummier. It’s why we wear our man’s T-shirt in bed and it’s why we might sniff our man’s armpit after sex. A fresh-scented cologne is yummy, but a man’s natural scent is even yummier. It’s why we wear our man’s T-shirt in bed and it’s why we might sniff our man’s armpit after sex. You can now even buy sex pheromones from companies like True Pheromones to give you this sensation all day long if you wish. Many people wear this as an alternative to cologne or perfume, so it might be worth giving it a try! - Being creative
A man who decorates your home for your birthday, writes a surprise love note or bakes a cake just for the fun of it suggests he’s a guy who knows how to make the most of life and get the best from you.
